My boy is also starting to notice the little (well sometimes not so little) changes in facial expressions and body language. He'd be asking 'Mommy why are you not smiling?'; 'Mommy why do you look sad? and I have to do a lot of explaining. If you read my earlier post Smiley Moments, I'm not a person who has a natural smile on my face (sad but true). For the sake of my kids now, I try to be more aware of my own presence in front of them. Sometimes I'm with them physically but my mind is elsewhere and that's when it shows on my face.
Anger. A mother who has never gotten angry at her kids before, ought to be declared a living saint by the Pope. When I get angry now, my son knows it and in a matter of seconds will ask me "Mommy are you still angry with me?" I make it clear to him that when I'm angry, it's not with him, but with the things he does. I used this analogy with him the other day, that when I'm fuming mad, I'm like hot food, don't go near it until it has cooled down a little. So, he checks on me by asking "Mommy are you still hot?" (I think to myself; "well of course, I'm always a hot mama!"). I'd usually give him a hug and kiss after to tell him that all is good.
I think it's important for kids to know that it's okay to feel and express emotions like sadness and anger. When my son's sad or angry, we talk about it and try to work things out. When he fusses, now that's a different story. I'd explain the situation to him and let him have his time to vent it out. I'm happy to know that he's able to snap out of it after awhile. Mature little fella!
This roller coaster ride is truly a yipppeeee ride, scary at times, always exciting with unexpected twists and turns and definitely a ride of a lifetime!